Q1) Why do we close our hearts?
We close our hearts because of getting hurt. Our hearts close out of safety because the pain is intense.
The other reason for closing the heart is because we were raised by parents who had closed hearts. They too were raised by parents with closed hearts. This leads to a culture and environment where people live with hurt energy in their system. People close their hearts because there is not enough information on how to manage hurt energy.
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Q2) How does trauma or hurt energy affect me?
Hurt energy makes its way into your heart, emotions, mind and your physical body:
Soul- It can cause you to shut down your heart. A closed heart shuts the connection to God
Emotion- You feel shameful. You can choose to disassociate from your emotions.
Mind- You identify with the wound. Hurt energy leads to the development of false beliefs. For example: I am not worth of love or I am not loveable.
Physical- Experience chest or back pain.
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Q2) How do I process heartbreak?
A heartbreak is energy that needs to be felt and processed. Once it is felt and processed it leaves your body completely. You will need to be vulnerable, connected to your emotions and cry to heal from a heart break. When you feel overwhelmed focus on breathing deeply. Lovingly forgive yourself and the other person.
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Q3) Why should I forgive someone who hurts me
The only way to heal fully is to use forgiveness. This means you have to forgive yourself for getting hurt and to forgive those who hurt you.
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Myth: If I forgive someone, then I am open to being hurt again
After you forgive, there two techniques you can use to avoid getting hurt. The first technique is to set boundaries. Setting boundaries lets people know what they cannot do.
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The second technique is being present so you can deal in person with another' person's hurt energy. If a person starts to give you hurt energy, create some distance between the two of you. It is okay to walk away from the situation (and the relationship) without saying anything.
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